“Confessions of a Female Rabbi: Relevant Religion in an On-Demand World” by Rabbi Rebecca Keren Jablonski is a captivating and candid memoir, offering a fresh and deeply personal perspective on what it means to serve as a rabbi in the modern world. Through a series of reflective “confessions”, Jablonski opens up about the joys, challenges, and transformations that come with guiding her community outside the walls of traditional institutions. Her honest reflections highlight not only her life journey but also the broader evolution of Judaism in an increasingly secular and fast-paced society.
One of the central themes of the book is Jablonski’s commitment to Jewish continuity and survival, a topic that has become more pressing in the wake of rising antisemitism and recent conflicts involving Israel. As she details the impact of events like the Israel-Hamas war on Jewish communities worldwide, Jablonski’s voice resonates with empathy and urgency. She shares stories of outreach, support, and aid to those affected, while also tackling the difficult questions her own congregants ask about identity, safety, and pride. Her responses are a mix of historical grounding, compassionate reassurance, and a call to maintain Jewish values in times of crisis.
A large part of Jablonski’s work is aimed at making Judaism relevant to today’s world, especially for those who may feel disconnected from traditional synagogue life. She highlights how younger generations increasingly lean toward secular values or opt for informal spirituality rather than organised religious practice. This “dechurching” trend, which is also present in other religions, reflects a generational shift away from traditional institutions—a reality Jablonski believes Jewish leaders cannot ignore. Through her work as an independent, “concierge rabbi”, she exemplifies how flexibility and creativity can bring new life to ancient practices, making them resonate in a way that is accessible and meaningful for today’s Jewish families.
Jablonski’s choice to perform interfaith marriages and to embrace an inclusive, personalised approach to religious leadership is a testament to her open-mindedness and modern take on rabbinic duties. She argues that such inclusivity is essential to nurturing Jewish identity in interfaith families and supporting a community that reflects the diversity of today’s society. Her memoir serves as a call for other Jewish leaders to adapt in order to maintain relevance, emphasising that interfaith families who choose Judaism enrich the faith, not dilute it.
Through a series of heartfelt and universal stories, Jablonski brings to life the sacred rhythms that define Jewish life. From guiding young people through the milestone of their bar and bat mitzvahs to officiating weddings that blend love with tradition, she reveals the profound significance of these pivotal moments. She touches on the challenges of navigating loss and divorce, while also celebrating the joys of birth and conversion—each story infused with her deep commitment to finding holiness in the everyday.
These moments are not only affirmations of faith but reminders that by creating space for meaning and connection, we can uncover something truly sacred in the cycle of our lives. Jablonski’s storytelling bridges the personal and the spiritual, leaving readers inspired to reflect on their own journeys.
What sets “Confessions of a Female Rabbi: Relevant Religion in an On-Demand World” apart is Jablonski’s rejection of the traditional pulpit role in favour of becoming a “personalized provider” who is available to meet families where they are—physically and emotionally. Her role as an “Uber of rabbis”, as she has been called, is a relatable model that appeals to those who may otherwise find formal religious services distant or uninspiring.
Her description of how she adapts her approach to each family’s needs, even amid the challenges of secularised life, sheds light on the diverse needs and identities within the Jewish community. Her adaptability serves as a reminder that religious leaders can successfully bridge the gap between tradition and modernity by embracing a more fluid, individualised approach.
Jablonski also delves into the painful resurgence of antisemitism, especially on college campuses and social media. She recounts her work as an advocate, educator, and mobiliser, supporting her clients with historical context and grounding them in Jewish pride despite an increasingly hostile environment. The book emphasises that even as American Jews feel isolated or insecure, there is strength in community and continuity. Jablonski’s unwavering commitment to supporting her community through these times is inspiring and makes her perspective particularly timely.
In “Confessions of a Female Rabbi: Relevant Religion in an On-Demand World”, Jablonski’s reflections are equal parts memoir and manifesto. She shares her journey toward becoming a new kind of religious leader—one that prioritises modern families’ emotional and spiritual needs over institutional expectations. Her book resonates as a call to action for Jewish leaders to rethink their approach to community, faith, and leadership in a rapidly changing world. For readers of all backgrounds, “Confessions of a Female Rabbi: Relevant Religion in an On-Demand World” offers a thought-provoking, uplifting read on how ancient traditions can remain vibrant, even as they evolve to meet the needs of modern society.
“Confessions of a Female Rabbi: Relevant Religion in an On-Demand World” by Rebecca Keren Jablonski is available to buy, right now, in both e-book and paperback editions, via Viva Editions.